When someone says:
It doesn’t matter
Nobody else can hear either
It’s not important
You’ll just have to get over it
You are lucky you don’t have to hear this
You must live in a nice peaceful world
What you hear, what you understand, is that you arent important, that you don’t matter.
They are hurtful, demeaning comments. They aren’t meant that way, but they are.
I can see that in some ways these words don’t matter, most of what is said is trivia, and to get stressed and worked up about it won’t make anything better.
It’s best to be Zen about it all.
I will have to get over it, to suck it up, but somehow having someone else tell you it, well that hurts.
This blog is part of that process, as are martinis.