I’m happy that these signs are there, indeed I put them up myself. In the main the signs are helpful, some people ask questions about hearing loss, and some share their experiences. Last week though these questions were asked, more than once. I don’t know why this happened, coincidence I suppose.
“Why don’t you get hearing aids?”
So I showed them my bilateral BTE heavy duty aids.
“Aren’t they working then?”
<<>> Then I launched into how I my hearing loss is so bad that hearing aids can’t help much. I would have said something about getting an implant had I not felt that I was having to justify myself
And this one……
“If you read lips why aren’t you looking at my face?”
This one threw me. I’ve never been asked that before and I found it confrontational and insulting. It’s like someone saying that you aren’t listening to them. My response was to explain about how lipreading works, saying it’s because I need to see the whole face not just the lips.
I held back on saying;
Because its tiring to focus on one area of the face,
Because in our culture it’s disconcerting if someone doesn’t make eye contact and because of this I make a conscious effort to do so,
Because your teeth are dirty and ugly,
Because you have a mouth full of food,
Because I am tired,
I suppose by putting up the signs I am inviting comments on my hearing loss, but I didn’t expect such intrusive ones. I didn’t feel that they were asked in a chatty way, but that there was thinly veiled criticism. Maybe it’s me.